Episode 6 | It’s Okay to Have Jesus and a Therapist with Khia Glover

Welcome to this episode of the Travel, Pray, Slay podcast. I am so excited to be joined by Khia Glover. In this episode, we talk about mental health, the importance of healing, the benefits of therapy, and how it doesn’t have to conflict with your faith.

Khia is a licensed social worker, therapist, mental health coach, and founder of Notes by Khia, a mental health education platform that offers a variety of mental health services for individuals, families, and large groups. Khia is dedicated to educating minority communities on mental health and providing a safe space for her clients to express themselves authentically and receive the support they need to manage their stressors and live a life of peace and wellness.

Show Notes:
[02:01] Khia shares about herself, her business, and how it all started as a blog.
[03:08] Khia is a licensed social worker. She started her career working with foster care and adoption. Her specialty is children and families and has been working with them for over ten years.
[05:28] Generations are often impacted by the same things and it just gets carried over. You have to heal for yourself and the girls and women that are coming behind you.
[05:46] When we don’t heal it affects so many different parts of our lives.
[06:52] Khia shares about her struggles with depression and anxiety. Not being seen and heard has impacted her a lot.
[08:12] We have to get to a point where we are healing those parts of ourselves so we can be our best. So that we can show the girl, women, and even the boys and men behind us the importance of that so they can have an even healthier start.
[10:00] Toya shares her personal story about going to therapy.
[12:54] Toya feels like her healing was a part of her being able to give and have that life that God promised.
[13:52] Therapy can help teach you how to set boundaries for yourself, how to respond when others aren’t happy with the boundaries you are setting, and help resolve different traumas or experiences we have been through.
[15:04] Therapy can teach you about yourself and different things about your personality.
[16:50] There doesn’t have to be anything specifically wrong. We are processing different experiences that you have and help you get through them.
[22:11] We have to get out of the mindset, that if we go to therapy that means we don’t believe God can work on this situation. God may have put this person in your life to help you work on that situation.
[23:49] All of these different things could be resolved in therapy if we just work on healing and not trying to carry everything by ourselves.
[27:23] There are times when God wants us to pair our prayer with action. That action could be therapy.
[29:11] God can use therapists too. There are Christian counselors.
[33:27] Toya shares how being involved with a Christian counselor even helped with her spiritual growth as well.
[35:41] It is important to have somebody that knows how to speak to you, when to challenge you, when to back down and comfort you, and able to know different coping strategies to provide you with.
[39:39] We have to learn how to be vulnerable and ask for the help that we need and get out of our heads that it makes us weak if we can’t do it on our own. We need to learn how to support each other.
[42:29] As black women we have to get to that point where we feel more comfortable comforting each other.
[44:30] Don’t ignore the issues that have made us have to be a strong black woman. Way too often we are put in these situations where we don’t have any other choice and it is killing us.
[46:15] We have to be more open in expressing how we’re feeling, what’s going on, and be more vulnerable with each other but we also have to do a better job at supporting each other.
[48:17] Khia shares her favorite top resources.
[50:50] Khia shares her favorite Beyonce song.

Connect with Khia Glover:
Khia’s Website
Khia on Instagram
Khia on Facebook
Khia on Twitter
Khia on YouTube
Khia on Pinterest
Khia on LinkedIn
Black Girl In Love (with Herself): A Guide to Self-Love, Healing, and Creating the Life You Truly Deserve By Trey Anthony
Notes By Khia Podcast
Parents Raising Mentally Healthy Children Facebook Group
211 Community Resources

Links Mentioned on the Show From Toya:
Travel, Pray, Slay Podcast
Travel, Pray, Slay on Facebook
Travel, Pray, Slay on Instagram
Travel, Pray, Slay on Spotify
Toya on Twitter
Travel, Pray, Slay Merch
Ordinary Women, Extraordinary Purpose Book